Someone just told me the story of an aged Edith Piaf who shared with a reporter that her real dream had been to have someone care for her “ramblings as if they were songs.”
I have no idea if that story is true, but it gave me pause. Isn’t that what most of us have, at some point in our life, thought we wanted? Isn’t that the same as a single friend saying, “I just want someone who loves me for me?” I think we share a desire for appreciation, for being truly heard and seen, for a recognition of the spark of genius and beauty that is within us. We want someone to know that we are special and to express that to us.
We can satisfy that desire in different ways, some beneficial some not so beneficial. But I would propose that one way to approach that desire (because let’s be honest, when it feels unmet it can ache like hell!) is to detach a little from the need to receive that appreciation from others and begin building that appreciation from the inside out instead. When I can appreciate myself more, I will find that my very EXISTENCE is a song.
We are not series of ramblings…walking around in a dreary life of debts and dramas. We have infinite possibilities at all times and are needed here in each and every moment we have breath. Can you believe that about yourself?
Because being a song to someone else will do you little good, unless you can hear the song as well.
So practice loving yourself more! Be the one to recognize the uniqueness in the design of your hand, of your eyelashes, in the timbre of your voice, of how the colors look through your eyes. Be humbled by the very specificities of you. Even if it feels like no one else is…especially is no one else is.
And this is not just an egocentric practice I am suggesting, because the beauty is that once you become more detached from the need of external validation you begin to feel free. In turn, once you begin to feel free you want to help other people feel free too! It is not just for you that I urge you to love you. It is for me, for him, for her, for all of us.
Here’s to you!